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Step 2: Calming the Chaos and Cultivating Harmony - Attention

Last week we covered key area #1 – Taking back control of your time. This week we are moving to the 2nd key area to address to gain some calm – taking back control of your attention.

 

As residents and academic physicians with full lives outside of work, the demands for your attention are numerous! Those demands add to the chaos and seeming lack of harmony. Let’s think through 4 steps of gaining control in this area.

 

Be present. You may recognize this from other...

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Step 1: Calming the Chaos and Cultivating Harmony - Time

This week, we will look at one of 3 key areas you can clean up to gain some control and improve harmony in your career and life outside of work. 

 

Today we will discuss gaining more control of your time.  I know, I know – you don’t have much control, and you feel you have way too much to do to fit it all in. Trust me. I know.

 

According to author Laura Vanderkam, we all have 168 hours a week. I checked her math. She’s right. Many residents, maxing out...

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Chase DiMarco hosted me on his Rounds to Residency Podcast

Listen as Chase and I chat about methods and mindset to finding joy in medical training. 

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Video: Quieting the Inner Critic

 

Developing awareness that the repeated negative things you think of yourself are not actual facts is the first step in of quieting the inner critic. In this video, I give you a sneak peek inside my brain .  (More detail is given in my written blog.)

Enjoy!  Tonya

Check out my 6-week reset for a resident or faculty in difficulty here

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Mindful communication, part 2: Speaking clearly

Last week we discussed the art of listening well, which is a huge part of clear, effective communication.

 

A good rule to start is even before you utter a word, do 2 things: 1. Check-in with yourself briefly. What’s the real intent behind your communication? – Are you happy with it? 2. Check your stress level.

 

We want to come with a clean mindset when we communicate all the time, but in higher stakes communication with patients, staff, colleagues, consultants,...

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Mindful communication, part 1: Listening well

George Bernard Shaw once said, “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”

 

It's so true. We email someone, text someone, say something, and then are shocked when the person feels we didn't communicate.  And at other times, people expect that we know something because they're under the false assumption we are in the loop.

 

We can only be responsible for our own part of communicating. So let's zero in on a couple...

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That pesky inner critic - part 1

inner critic not enough May 01, 2021

We all have an inner critic.

 

What is an inner critic? The inner critic is that voice inside our heads that spews negative self-talk to us from time to time, or maybe all the time.  It criticizes, judges, and shames us. It reminds us of failures over and over. It paints us in the harshest light. 

 

When it speaks, it usually says things like “You aren’t _______enough” fill in the blank – good enough, smart enough, tall enough, confident...

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Video: Self-Care is not selfish

 

Self-care isn't going to remove all the various external difficulties in the system, but it will bolster your natural resilience and renew your energy for the tasks at hand. 

Recognize that you need to recharge regularly. You will have more energy and presence in all other areas of your life. It is not selfish. Pick one area you know you'd benefit from if done regularly.

1. Prioritize it and put it on the schedule.

2. Keep your promise to yourself.

3. Have fun rediscovering what is...

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