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Video: Separating out Fact from Story

 

Begin recognizing your automatic stories that include fact and assumptions. This creates room for you to break common thought distortions. And shift your perspective towards one that serves you better. 

Have a joy-filled month - Tonya

Our 12-week course for individual physicians walks you through detailed steps of ditching of how our thoughts work. You learn how to decrease unnecessary suffering, protecting and increasing your energy, and fostering your ideal future. 

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Over-reliance on external validation, pitfalls and fixes

Let’s explore external validation. I believe it’s an important topic since it, along with unhealthy perfectionism and a couple of other issues, played a role in my burnout story. Residents, and faculty alike, often fall prey to an unhealthy desire for others' approval.

 

The satisfaction of external validation is not, in and of itself, a bad thing. It’s a natural occurrence with some adaptive consequences historically.  Wanting to belong and a desire for external...

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The pursuit of balance...

Oh, the elusive yet promising search for work-life balance. I hear people say it's not possible. I listen to others proclaim it is absolutely possible.  Once I found a few different ways to view it – I learned I lean more toward the latter camp than the former.  I offer you the three ways of viewing it that have helped me.  Two of which appear in my brain as novel thoughts (though it's possible it's not original – my brain is funny that way) and one which I...

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Developing your own personal board of directors

I first heard this great concept of developing your own personal board of directors from Dr. Sasha Shillcutt, who accomplishes more than most people on any given day. If you think of your life as an extraordinary company that can impact the world – and you as its CEO, great benefit can be uncovered by developing your own board of directors that help guide you forward to thrive.

 

When I had the opportunity, early in my career, to help develop and become the medical director for a...

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Dr Mike Woo-Ming hosts me on his BootstrapMD podcast

podcast Oct 07, 2021

Listen Here as Dr. Woo-Ming and I discuss why it's essential that residency programs have coaching. 

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From the archives: Buildings stories (and causing suffering) one lego at a time.

This weekend, while I am cultivating friendships and life skills at the Brave Enough Conference (all of us vaccinated and masked), I decided to model protecting my rejuvenation time and take a week off from writing. I pulled from my favorites in the archives. 

Who doesn't love a good story?  Well, it really depends on the story, right?  Many of us make up stories in our heads and believe them.  I like to think of these narratives as massive Lego buildings – like...

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Video: Cultivating Friendships

 

Friendships are important in life. It's natural that the nature of our work sets some obstacles in place to those friendships. This month's blog discusses the secret of cultivating and maintaining those friendships - intentionality and creativity. 

Have a joy-filled, friendship-cultivating month! Tonya

Residency programs can benefit from our Flagship 6-week hybrid coaching course for resident or faculty groups. Learn more here https://www.joyinfamilymedicine.com/residency-programs

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Setting healthy boundaries: a corollary to manuals.

Today, we are talking about boundaries. Boundaries are the next natural thing to explore once we have started letting go of manuals for other people (see last week’s blog). Our brains like to worry that if we let go of all the spoken and unspoken rules for everyone and every situation, we will be taken advantage of (ironically – no matter how many manuals/rules we have, we actually have no control of others).  So, what protections are in place that we have control over?...

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Getting rid of manuals to reduce stress.

Today, we are talking about manuals. You've likely not heard of this concept, but stick with me, and you'll understand.  We know stressors are everywhere in medicine and, sometimes, we have more control than we realize in improving our experience.

 

Here's a scenario. Let's say you are checking your inbox before clinic starts, and you see a refill request with a lengthy explanation of why it's needed early. But you had only seen the patient once 18 months ago. They have seen your...

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Self-care revisited: Movement and Exercise

exercise movement self-care Sep 04, 2021

In our series of Self-Care Revisited, we have covered the why, sleep, nutrition, and this week we are discussing physical movement and exercise.

 

There are many benefits of just moving, not being sedentary, including improving postural autonomic health (goodbye dizziness when standing) and decreasing overall cardiovascular events and all-cause mortality.  It's more important to be moving with the aim of 10,000 steps a day than to have some formal exercise and be sedentary (less...

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