This weekend, while I am cultivating friendships and life skills at the Brave Enough Conference (all of us vaccinated and masked), I decided to model protecting my rejuvenation time and take a week off from writing. I pulled from my favorites in the archives. 

Who doesn't love a good story?  Well, it really depends on the story, right?  Many of us make up stories in our heads and believe them.  I like to think of these narratives as massive Lego buildings – like...

Friendships are important in life. It's natural that the nature of our work sets some obstacles in place to those friendships. This month's blog discusses the secret of cultivating and maintaining those friendships - intentionality and creativity. 

Have a joy-filled, friendship-cultivating month! Tonya

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Today, we are talking about boundaries. Boundaries are the next natural thing to explore once we have started letting go of manuals for other people (see last week’s blog). Our brains like to worry that if we let go of all the spoken and unspoken rules for everyone and every situation, we will be taken advantage of (ironically – no matter how many manuals/rules we have, we actually have no control of others).  So, what protections are in place that we have control over?...

Today, we are talking about manuals. You've likely not heard of this concept, but stick with me, and you'll understand.  We know stressors are everywhere in medicine and, sometimes, we have more control than we realize in improving our experience.

Here's a scenario. Let's say you are checking your inbox before clinic starts, and you see a refill request with a lengthy explanation of why it's needed early. But you had only seen the patient once 18 months ago. They have seen your...

In our series of Self-Care Revisited, we have covered the why, sleep, nutrition, and this week we are discussing physical movement and exercise.

There are many benefits of just moving, not being sedentary, including improving postural autonomic health (goodbye dizziness when standing) and decreasing overall cardiovascular events and all-cause mortality.  It's more important to be moving with the aim of 10,000 steps a day than to have some formal exercise and be sedentary (less...

Last month we talked about dropping the manuals for others. In this month's vlog, we cover a coaching perspective on setting and keeping boundaries. 

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We are on part 3 of a 4-part series on getting back to the basics of self-care. The first week, we covered its importance and the objections. Last week we looked at restorative sleep. This week we tackle nutrition.

The amount of contradictory nutrition information out there is dizzying.  I’m going to give you my best tips I’ve collected from resources I consider reliable. Also, I recommend any of Harvard’s Lifestyle Medicine courses as they are amazing. (And, no,...

We covered why self-care is important and addressed a few common objections last week. Let's delve into arguably the most essential self-care basic -- Restorative Sleep. In fact, it’s the foundation of self-care. Keep in mind that if you're already waking up feeling refreshed and not sleepy throughout the day – you can keep doing whatever it is that is working for you.  Most physicians, however, will tell you they are low on sleep – some of it out of their control and...

I can hear you thinking, “What?!  Not more about self-care. Don’t put the onus on us. Fix the system!” Before I tackle that perspective, let me lay out my plan for the next 4 weeks. I’m going to get back to the basics of self-care – restorative sleep, good nutrition, movement/exercise.  We have human bodies, and every human body functions best with these three things. So, while self-care can look different for each of us, there are some core things we...

This month's vlog is about how keeping manuals for how things "should be" and how people "should act" causes some unnecessary drama and suffering.  Since we can't control people, wishing they were different causes us more pain. Acceptance is such a healthy way to live. But that doesn't mean you can't have "asks" or work to improve things. Stay tuned for next month's vlog on boundaries to see how these two concepts go hand-in-hand.

If you know of a resident or faculty who is struggling,...