Who doesn't love a good story?  Well, it really depends on the story, right?  Many of us makeup stories in our heads and believe them.  I like to think of these narratives as massive Lego buildings – like skyscrapers or elaborate mansions that we build. At times, they become larger than life.

One of the first steps to maximizing enjoyment in life regardless of the circumstance is to look at these constructions and parse out facts from the presumptions.  I'll...

Christmas 2020

Christmas 2020 was back to the basics in the Alaska Caylor home. A few of the tools I learned from coaching served me well — Permission, Perspective, Engagement.

We normally love to travel and see friends and family during the holidays.  However, with COVID19 numbers peaking around the country, we decided to stay home for the holidays. And, while we normally have an annual get-together at our home for friends and/or family, this year we did not.

In this month's Vlog I discuss limiting beliefs and how you can start to uncover them and decide if you want to change them or not.  

As a physician, they can show up in your career or outside of work. How do you describe yourself? What things do you believe about yourself that are keeping you from growth, reaching for higher goals, or just keeping you stuck?  Do you want to be chief? Do you want to climb the academic ladder? Maybe you had a fleeting thought of becoming the CMO? Are...

Orignial blog 12/2020, Updated January 2024

Brene’ Brown defines a rumble as “a discussion, conversation, or meeting defined by a commitment to lean into vulnerability, to stay curious and generous, to stick with the messy middle of problem identification and solving, to take a break and circle back when necessary, to be fearless in owning our parts, and, as psychologist Harriet Lerner teaches, to listen with the same passion with which we want to be heard.”

The...

The pandemic is stretching everyone in multiple directions simultaneously.  It is terribly inconvenient and disruptive.  It is stressing mental health, threatening livelihoods, altering futures, and taking lives.  It is affecting everyone in so many various ways.

How are you coping?

There is no right or wrong way to deal with this unprecedented global stress.  The important thing is we find a way to endure it and remain mentally and physically intact.

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When I bring up feelings and emotions with residents, I can almost sense the suppressed cringe.  It’s actually very easy for me to imagine it, since I had that very same cringe whenever one of our didactics was on, let’s say, ‘softer topics.’  As a resident, I was there to learn straight up clinical medicine - not touchy-feely things. 

It’s actually really interesting that it’s common among physicians to equate emotions with...

When you have many raw veggies, but not enough of any one type - this is a delicious, no thinking plan.

Dice them all up, mix with olive oil, salt and pepper, minced garlic and any spice that seems to go with your meal or even no additional spices.

Place them on pan on top of parchment paper or a silicone roasting mat in single layer, roast at 425-450 degrees F in the oven for 10-15 minutes. Then, flip them and  roast another 10-15 minutes or until done to your liking.

Most...

I have friends and colleagues that naturally grew up with the mindset of giving everyone the benefit of the doubt.  I’m not sure why I didn’t, but I used to often assume the worst about others.  I didn’t even see it as a problem until I was in training. 

Thankfully, I began to learn to give patients the benefit of the doubt during training. By way of example, I experienced my fair share of narcotic seekers and manipulating who wanted to either abuse...

Stress, Burnout, and Moral injury in healthcare

I recently listened to Brené Brown’s podcast on Burnout with Emily and Amelia Nagoski, twin sisters, who wrote the book Burnout: Unlocking the Stress Cycle. If you haven’t listened to it, I recommend it: Podcast link (summary tips at the end of my blog).

As I do more often since I’ve been coaching, I reflected how poorly we as physicians process emotions in general. I plan a future blog devoted wholly...