The more I coach, the more I see a theme emerging. The theme of portraying a character that fits the mold, earns praise and is accepted.

We are socialized early in the education process to perform for the approval of others.

You are standing on stage. The spotlight is on you. The critics are in the back with their pencils, ready to scribble harsh judgments with any slip or nuanced infraction. So much rides on the published review.

“Pass, Honors, High Pass,...