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Virtue or Weight

by Dr. Tonya Caylor
Jun 03, 2025

I had a conversation recently with someone who discussed how judgment - when it's our own - feels very virtuous. And yet, it often changes nothing except it is like a weight we bear.

I invite you to experiment with me - find something that evokes a bit of judgment. But, let's not go for the deeply entrenched issues that bring up a lot of indignant righteousness right off the bat. Take something smaller.

Now play with the idea and for a just a moment suspend critical judgment. What's it like to not have an opinion of what they (or you) should or shouldn't do. How does that feel? Now what?

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