Ziplining Snafu: Story and Reflection

When we explored Alaska with our 13-year-old before our move from Florida 17 years ago, we made sure to make it adventurous for her.

We signed up for zip-lining in Ketchikan among the tall Western Hemlocks. I've never been a fan of heights (understatement of the year!), but I was determined. We rode to the top of a mountain and stepped out the other side of a cabin in full gear. We took a practice zip, which was only a couple of feet, and minimal height change from the starting platform connected to the cabin deck.

I didn't look down until I reached the official start platform. Terrifyingly high. 😬 Being in the back of the line allowed me too much time to take in the expansive view. My threat detection system went on full alert, and I was no longer rational -- It was clear to me that I was in imminent danger!

Wide-eyed, I looked at the guide and said, "I can't." Encouragement from everyone only increased my resistance. He finally relented and radioed down for help.

"We have a Bailout," he said. As I rode back down the mountain to the office, I was embarrassed, but more than that, I was relieved. They had me sign a form that at the top said - no lie -  "Bailout Form."

It struck me that they kept referring to me as the Bailout. One thing I knew was that I may have bailed, but I amnot a Bailout.

We must separate our behavior and feelings from our identity.

You are not a worrier; you may worry. You are not a procrastinator; you sometimes procrastinate. Don't internalize labels - the negative psychological impacts are genuine for doing so.

Reflection: What labels do you need to lose? Start practicing now. "I'm not a people-pleaser, I just don't like disappointing people." etc. We are not our behaviors. We are not our feelings. What labels do you need to remove from your nameplate? I promise you, it's worth it.

PS. The next excursion was the repelling course in Skagway (pictured above - a little less height). At the top of the mountain, I stepped forward to go first (before my brain went on full alert) and successfully refused not only the label of "Bailout," but the action itself.