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VW Bug Reflection

by Dr. Tonya Caylor
Jun 08, 2025

For this week's reflection, I invite you to picture a 4-seater car. My friend, Dr Sasha Shillcutt, likes to talk about balancing/integrating life as the driver. You occupy the driver's seat (hopefully!), and then you have one other front-seat passenger and 2 back-seat passengers.

Here's my take. You get to decide day-to-day, moment-by-moment, who you are allowing in the car, and who gets to ride shotgun. These are the people, projects, etc. which are your priorities. The other people and projects can stand by the curb and wait for you to drop a passenger and make room for them when it's their turn. I like to say a long line doesn't mean anything is wrong with you - it's a marker of an abundant life.

So, who will occupy what seat in your car, for how long, and when do you know it's time to rearrange your passengers? How will you decide? (Sasha likes to remind us all that we don't own clown cars!!)

Some people can increase their capacity to a mini-van. But PLEASE stop pretending you own a Grayhound bus! (And if you do - keep in mind bus drivers have strict work hour limitations 😉)

I'd love to hear what comes to mind.

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