Question Reflection

by Dr. Tonya Caylor

Jun 08, 2025

In this week's Joy FM Snippet, I invite you to reflect on the automatic questions you ask yourself on the regular.

Our brains are wired to look for and deliver answers. So if you ask things like, "What is wrong with me?" then your brain will go looking for all the answers. You likely will feel worse when the answers are received.

Learn to ask yourself better questions - What is going well? How can I improve?

Now, if the first-order answer your brain gives is "nothing" or "I don't know" - get out of its way and ask again. You'll be amazed at what things you come up with.

Better questions is a more adaptive way to get to where you want to go than finding faults with yourself where you are.

I'd love to hear your up-leveled questions.

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