Polarities Reflection

"I can either run on time, or I can address the patient's needs"

"I can either get my work done, or build relationships with the staff."

"I can either shirk my responsibilities at work and be there for my family, or I can shirk my responsibilities for my family and be there for work."

These are often our brains' default choices - mutually exclusive & binary. And they are usually a false dichotomy! Buying into this false dilemma limits us, keeps us in a negativity and scarcity mindset, and hands the microphone to our inner critic!

Expanding from all-or-nothing thinking to consider the Vinn diagram of the situation is incredibly helpful in many situations. To do so, you must loosen up on "the ideal" and dial down maladaptive perfectionism, and actively look for the creative intersection.

Point your brain in the direction you want it to go and get out of its way. Embrace the "Yes, And" of the situation.

So, how can you run more on time and address your patient's most essential needs?

How can you get more of your work done while slowly building connections with those you work with?

How can you integrate your work responsibilities into your family responsibilities? What is it that MUST be done by YOU right NOW? What can be outsourced? What are the priorities at this point? How can you leverage your strengths? What resources do you need? How can you access some of them?

Now, let's make it an experiment - what's the first thing you can try? When do you reevaluate? How do you need to tweak it and make it better?

So when you see an either or choice - question it. What may be in the gray zone?

I'd love to hear your experiences of how this has played out for you and how you improved it.