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Leaders and Legacy Reflection

by Dr. Tonya Caylor
Jun 12, 2025

When physicians or faculty leaders are struggling in their roles—or with certain parts of them—I often ask:

"When you think of a leader you admire, what qualities stand out?"

They usually name things such as integrity. Strength. Clinical wisdom. Courage. Kindness. Collaboration.

And almost always—without me bringing it up—they also say: “But they didn’t have balance.” or “They worked all the time.”

It creates a quiet tension: How do I honor what I admired without replicating what no longer feels possible - or sustainable - today?

Sometimes what holds people back isn’t capacity. It’s the internal tug-of-war: Wanting to lead with integrity and presence - while also craving rest, space, and joy. It feels like an either-or. That saying no means we’re letting someone down. But part of growth is learning that sustainability doesn’t diminish your dedication—it strengthens it.

And sometimes, it’s simply the volume of work. The emails, the meetings, the patient care, the mentorship, the paperwork. There are only so many hours in a day - and part of the growth is learning what to delegate, what to decline, what to streamline, and what to let go.

But what if the legacy you leave is different?

What if the people you lead or educate today grow into future leaders and, when asked the same question, they say:

"In addition to those admirable qualities, I had a role mode who led with clarity, purpose, and healthy boundaries that protected the most important things. They showed me what sustainable leadership could look like."

Modeling that kind of leadership takes effort. It requires navigating discomfort, uncertainty, and the absence of a clear blueprint. It may feel awkward at first - and it may take several trials - to grow into something no one ever showed you.

But the impact? It will reach far beyond you.

Reflection What qualities did your most admired mentors model—and which do you want to carry forward? Who might be learning from the way you lead now—and what are they starting to believe is possible?

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