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Optimizing Your Mindset in Medicine, Step 5 - Helpful Tips

Over the past month, we went through some foundational steps to optimize your experience even when you couldn’t control the situation by up-leveling our mindset. We then looked at a couple of advanced options to grow our perspective in a way that serves us better.  This week, I want to give you a couple of helpful hints. 

 

Improving your mindset is a skill set. And, like any skill, it takes practice, patience, and continued learning.

 

It’s common to get to the fact versus story portion of the work and think, “but NO, this IS a fact,” when it contains judgments, assumptions, adjectives, or loaded words.  It is entirely normal to be very attached to our thoughts and way of seeing things.  However, we know that creating a little distance here can be beneficial!  Especially to move into the thought model, you want to have your story and facts cleanly separated from each other to fill in the C and T lines accurately.

 

Here are three helpful hints to help you with this process.

 

  1. Ask yourself - What are 5-10 other ways to view the situation? They don’t have to be positive – neutral or less negative is also good. If your brain comes up with nothing, try jump-starting the juices flowing by making up something wild - "An alien..."

 

  1. If that isn’t helpful, think about how someone else you know might view the situation. For instance, when I have five people asking me complex questions and I think "There's too much going on for one person." If I can't even brainstorm another way to see it, I can think "How would Bob (my most chill colleauge) look at this?" These first two techniques help gain mental flexibility.

 

  1. If neither helps you wiggle your narrative loose a little, instead of debating with yourself (or anyone else for that matter) if a thought is true or not, ask yourself if it's useful. Instead of the validity, challenge how it's helping you in the situation. 

 

Recongize this process as a skill that improves over time and comes in stages.

 

At first, in most situations, you will fly through the day and get home with thoughts swimming in your head, causing lots of emotions. That is so completely normal for us as physicians. On some nights, you will choose to walk through the thought download and fact versus story strategies. You will likely identify one or two ways you could have thought of something differently but didn’t in the moment.  This is normal.

 

In the second stage, there will be a couple of things during your day where you wonder if you should pause and tease out the facts, but you don’t.  This is also normal and progress! The awareness is beginning to show up in the moment.

 

The third stage is when you have times you catch yourself, pause briefly and have a thought, "These are just thoughts" fly through your mind but you continue down your habitual way of thinking, feeling, and behaving. Again - more progress. 

 

Then, in the moment - you become the observer of your thoughts, name the emotion, and feel a little more calm. You respond rather than react and sometimes shift your perspective on the fly.  It feels amazing!

 

The last stage is similar to the story I told last week about the laundry being on the floor, and my automatic thought about it was positive. However, this is an exception and not the rule. We have built decades of neuropathways in our brains that won't dissapear overnight or ever. But just realizing when we tune in, we can choose a different pathway that we are building in our brains. 

 

We will live most of our experiences as we grow in the first 4 stages. Those automatic thought patterns run deep. Nothing has gone wrong. Over time we will have more and more step 4 episodes. And occasionally, we will go back to stage 1 (especially when we are tired, hungry, etc.).

 

I hope you find these tips helpful.  Next week, I will share important caveats when optimizing your mindset. Stay tuned!

 

Have a joy-filled week! Tonya

 

Learn more tips for less stress and more joy in my Weekend Reads, delivered every Sunday to your inbox.

Original July 2022, Updated Oct 2024 

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